Be a Work of Art~ All vintage under $30!

25 Mar

“The scariest moment is always just before you start.” ~ Stephen King

My friends have been telling me for awhile that I should take my vintage and headband line very seriously.  I always said “Yeah, yeah I will.” But I got all the divine signs that it had to be done and it had to be done right NOW! So here we go.

I love Stevie Nicks and all things 70′s.  I was thrilled when American Horror story heavily used her songs and featured her.  If you follow me you know that my headband line is called Lila Juliet but Im now featuring a ton of vintage and I’ve named that line  Gypsy Vintage. It’s from all eras but my favorite finds are from the 70′s. I love dresses with a magical, whimsical air.

Stevie-nicks-style

Gold Dust Woman

Gold Dust Woman

 These are just a couple of looks from the brand new vintage at http://www.lilajuliet.etsy.com

Ive priced everything under $30.

I feel everyone should be able to walk the Earth looking and being ART.

The beauty about vintage is that its recycled. Your helping the Earth and your clothes will be more interesting and are probably made better!

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Service not Servitude

6 Nov

Servitude is putting myself down, allowing myself to be dominated by others or a system of belief.  Service is filling my own well and acting from this inner divine authority- Sera Beak, pg 148, Red,Hot and Holy.

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When to cut the cord

18 Oct

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2 Timothy 1:7

King James Version (KJV)

For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.

Detachment

1. indifference to other people or to one’s surroundings; aloofness

2. (Psychology) freedom from self-interest or bias; disinterest

3. the act of disengaging or separating something

4. the condition of being disengaged or separated; disconnection

5. (Military) Military

a.  the separation of a small unit from its main body, esp of ships or troops

b.  the unit so detached

 I’m a huge self-help book lover. You can find me in the sci-fi section or self-help section in Barnes and Nobles.  I have an enormous amount of self-help books taking over my home library.  I noticed a shiny unopened book in my bookshelf by Melody Beattie titled “Codependant No More.” I wondered “When did I buy this and why?” “Im not codependant, my boyfriend has alone time and so do I we never freak about it.”  Someone must’ve recommended this book to me because once I read it I realized, “Whoa, I am codependent”.

There is a chapter on Detachment which I took a highlighter too. You may need to detach from an idea, a situation or a person. Have you ever gone out of your away to help someone who didn’t even ask for your help?  Perhaps you overextend yourself because you subconsciously are looking for everyone’s acceptance?  When a friend is in a bad mood and you think it has to be something YOU did?

 Letting go of being the director of the show

I recently got into a heated email discussion with another mother about our children. I felt I worded the email in a polite, non confrontational way.  Her response left me dumbfounded. Since she was mean in the email and took no responsibility.  I fired back and sent her an equally mean email  to the one she sent me.  She responded and by the time I read it I was drained. I responded something along the lines that us now fighting was not at all my intention and I just wanted peace between our daughters and wished she understood. I also ended it with God bless you and your family. I thought for a moment and realized no matter how angry I was I shouldve  just turned off the computer and went directly to the school principal instead of now having this petty argument.  After that she said “Thank you” but continued to try to hit below the belt.  I kept on thinking in my head how could she not want to resolve this in a very adult way, why can’t we come together and show our daughters an example of how to solve disputes. I kept emailing her back trying to convince her to change her mind. Why didn’t she see things my way?!

The real question is “Why am I trying to control this mother’s response?” People are who they are. Page 61 from Codependent no more states: Detachment also involves accepting reality-the facts. It requires faith- in ourselves, in God, in other people, and in the natural order and destiny of things in this world. Once I saw where the conversation was headed it was my responsibility to not engage and insult another person. My feelings  got the best of me but well talk more about feelings in a moment.

 Letting go of people and their responsibilities

A good question is “Are we doing what it takes to care of ourselves?” We shouldn’t be worried about the responsibilities or actions of another adult.  It isn’t to say we can’t be helpful but we are not take on their burdens.  Everyone is fully capable of taking care of themselves and making their own choices. You shouldnt do anything that you’ll resent you did later on for someone.  Perhaps you volunteered to do someone a favor, or you feel coerced to do a favor. If you cant do it and have a gut reaction that you truly don’t want to do it, if its going to affect you or your family’s balance or peace say “No”.  Draw boundaries. People are just people.  There is nothing to be scared of.  Saying “No” is extremely difficult for me. When your just starting out being assertive “buy yourself some time”.  If someone asks you to babysit their 3 kids on a holiday weekend and you had  your hopes on going to yoga classes and hanging at the beach you can say “Let me get back to you, I believe I had a previous engagement.” Then there are those people who ask you for things that they know will make you uncomfortable but they ask anyway because they know you will eventually say yes. They may ask for money, business contacts, whatever. To those people saying “Im sorry but I have a policy of not _________ to anyone I’ve had a few bad experiences.” Leave it at that.  Use your common sense.  Everytime I’m assertive a fear comes over me and I think “OMG, is that person going to be mad at me?”  I don’t listen to that fear based feeling anymore. I would do almost anything for some of my genuine friends. Some I haven’t spoken to in months or even years but I’d be there in a moment.  You know who your friends are that you have a give and take relationship with and people who just need things. 

 Dont be hard on yourself when you did nothing wrong

A very smart  woman told me  “Keep your side of the street clean.”  Worry about your own tasks and  be morally responsible. When you lay in bed at night you know you’ve done all  you can do and you have fulfilled your own obligations.  When your conscience is clear and you know you did right don’t keep obsessing over other people’s reaction.  When someone acts negative towards you for no reason its a reflection on their current life or spiritual condition. You cannot wallow in despair and fall apart over other people’s reactions or behavior, or situations that may arise.  Emotions cannot run you because they change like the wind. For example  Jeremiah 17:9 states  “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?” Okay, that text may be a little tough but the point is your emotions are going to change. Everything you FEEL is not reliable. You can’t let people, places or things blow your house down.

 When to detach

When should you detach for someone? Basically when you become obsessed and can’t stop worrying about someone or something, about something you said or did, about something they said or did. When you constantly do for someone else and your upset with yourself for constantly “helping” that person. If  you’re obsessing over something because you have hurt someone promptly admit you were wrong, change your actions and move on. Obsessing isn’t helping anyone.

You may have to detach completely from people. Some people leave you feeling drained and are not beneficial to your growth. It doesnt mean you don’t care. Quite the opposite you do care but you also respect yourself. Your not here to solve other people’s problems. Your not here to make people act a certain way. Your not here to do things for others for the wrong reasons and then kick yourself about it.  Give people the room and opportunity to grow and become evolved on this journey.

Adopt a policy of keeping your hands off other people’s responsibilities and keeping other people’s negative emotions off you.

Im a work in progress and Im trying to do this myself everyday.

Check out Melody’s Beattie’s  book here

Love,

Michelle

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Save Saint Demetrios Jamaica Day School

30 Jun

Please click on the link and sign the petition.  THANK YOU VERY MUCH!

Save Saint Demetrios Jamaica Day School

Saint Demetrios is an amazing little school located in Jamaica, Queens. It has a great staff and the sweetest kids. This is affordable private school at its best. Please take the time to sign this petition to save the school. Most kids that attend this school are from working class families that want their kids to have a quality education that they can afford.

There is a Greek word, κοινωνία (koinonia)

It’s a hard word to translate, but what it means is “communion by intimate participation”This is the very definition of Saint Demetrios, a Greek Orthodox community in Jamaica, Queens, founded in 1927 which has, since 1967 provided a parochial school education for grades K-8.

The school is an oasis for people in Jamaica searching for a quality education for their children, built by the Greek Americans who left Greece after the Second World War and the subsequent Greek Civil War and came to Jamaica, Queens. They all came here with one purpose: to create a better life for their children, with church and community and education at the heart; their goal was koinonoia.

These immigrants had children and their children have had children, all educated at the same school that stood by the community for decades. And these children have moved away from Jamaica, and the young Greek community that was once enormous and strong is now elderly diminished.

But the school had opened its doors to the neighborhood, not just to Greeks. Anyone wanting a quality education was welcome. Today the great majority of students at Saint Demetrios are not of Greek descent, but are a mix of people who live nearby, a very diverse mix.

The 2013-2014 enrollment is expected to be smaller than usual, and the church can no longer support the school, and has, in fact, already had a vote and has shut down the school.

The new principal of the school has been in place for a short time; she is a former classmate of mine; she is hard working, determined, and exactly the type of person you would entrust your children with. She needs more time to turn things around. She has made amazing progress and must be allowed to continue, not just for the Greeks but for the koinonoia of Jamaica.

Please help if you can; it would mean a lot to the community.

~Smells Like Teen Spirit~ Kat Von D, Ombre Hair, Cheap make up edition

21 Apr

Firstly, I’m posting this video as a public frieken service. I went to Kat Von D’s book signing and I sat next to a guy who must’ve been about 18. He was flipping through Kat Von D’s book “GO BIG OR GO HOME”, which is beautiful. It has some of the most gorgeous pictures. Anyway, he lands on a picture of Jeffree Star who has Elvis, Kurt Cobain and Audrey Hepburn tattooed on his chest. The kid says to me “I know Elvis and the lady from Breakfast at Tiffany’s but I don’t know who that guy is. I shockingly looked at him and said “Kurt Cobain, smells like teen spirit, he’s a legend.” He looked at me blankly an I totally felt my age. So here’s the video for all the youngins’.

Anyway I got to meet Kat Von D. I love her because she’s this fierce ball of creativity. She has a tattoo shop, an art gallery, a make up line, a clothing line and she has a CD coming out soon. She’s a CREATIVE MONSTER! I love being around people like that. Most of my close friends are a bunch of weirdos but are the most highly creative, interesting people I know.

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Now, talking about insanely creative out of this world people my friend “Jenilovesretro” did my new ombre hair. I’ve known her since I was 17. I wanted a change badly. I was such a difficult client. I told “Do whatever you want to my hair, but don’t cut too much off and don’t damage it with hair dye.” Basically I was giving her full permission to give me a trim. But she is a genius and also rocks purple hair. This is what she did-

GetAttachment-5.aspxI love it because she only dyed the ends, and I still have virgin undyed hair on the top of my head. Check out her instagram here

http://instagram.com/jeniluvsretro

Lastly, I want to let you in on some of my new favorite beauty products. They’re super cheap

ALL UNDER $5 (EXCEPT FOR ONE, but it’s worth it!!)

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1.  TRADER JOE’S TEA TREE FACE WASH- Makes me feel super clean and tingly. Follow up with product #2

  2.  TRADER JOE’S Coconut oil and I dont use this for cooking. I have very dry cheeks. I use it as moisturizer and the best part is it doesnt leave a greasy mess as one may think. It pretty much absorbs into your skin naturally and it smells like HEAVEN.

3.  CHARLOTTE RONSON fragrance roller ball oil $13 at Sephora. The smell is so DIVINE. It’s like the beach, sunscreen and summer all rolled into one fragrance. When work is stressing me out I just sniff my wrists and make-believe I’m in Fiji under a waterfall relaxing. Love this one!!!

4.  MAYBELINE #978 AMETHYST ABLAZE. This is a purple lipstick and every time I wear it girls want to know where i bought it. Its Maybeline and its cheap. Less that $5.

5.  REVELON #008 Candy Pink lipstick. It’s perfect for the office and for quick light touch ups.

6. NK #925 Dont know why its called POWER PLUM because  it’s actually bright orange and it looks awesome if your feeling daring.(You find these at the DOLLAR STORES)

7. Physicians Formula lip plumper (Got it at Jacks for $2.99) It tingles and it works for about an hour. I wear this on the days Im feeling Hollywood.

Till next time,

XOXO,

Michelle

“I’ll Wear Your Grandma’s clothes, I’ll look incredible.”

4 Apr

 

I LOVE paying barely anything for my clothes. When a co worker tells me theres a sale at H&M, I ask “What kind of sale?” If they say items are about $20, I don’t consider that a sale. That’s not a sale for me. Call me cheap, I don’t care. Clothes shouldn’t cost an arm and a leg. One of the reasons that I love vintage clothing is because its unique and has lasted for so long and is durable, plus you can find amazing deals for vintage at Goodwills and other shops. Believe me I indulge once in a while. I have a stupid expensive pair of True Religions but they’re the only jeans I actually like to wear. I also have a few pairs of Michael Kors shoes.  It’s only natural that Macklemore’s “Thrift Shop” is my self proclaimed theme song. My new thing is taking a picture of what I have on that day, breaking down the price and where I got it then instagraming it

http://instagram.com/lilajuliet1

So here’s last Monday

Leather Lady $47.00

Leather Lady $47.00

Plaid Shirt is from Forever 21 for $15, pleather skirt is from Forever 21

$20, Shoes are from Shoe Warehouse in Roosevelt Queens $15

Asian Inspired $36.50

Asian Inspired $36.50

Chinese Laundry heels $35.00, Vintage Blouse $1.50 at a Flea Market

The pants were a hand me down

Office Official$70

Office Official
$70

H&M blazer $20, Shirt is from Forever 21 $15,

Chinese laundry shoes $35, Raven Denim pants (gift :)

Buttercup Vintage$80

Buttercup Vintage
$80

Vintage Yellow lace dress from etsy.com $60 (Years ago and its my favorite dress in the world!)

Shoes $13, earrings are from the Burlington Coat Factory $5

The Stevie Nicks$223. I know, I know its expensive. The jeans did me in!

The Stevie Nicks
$223. I know, I know its expensive. The jeans did me in!

True Religion Jeans $175, Vintage Shirt from Goodwill $8, Sunglasses from etsy.com $18,

Shoes from the Shoe Warehouse in Queens $12, Bag is $10 from Goodwill.

Where do you go to find thrifty threads?

Love,

Michelle

http://www.lilajuliet.etsy.com

 

 

 

 

 

I’m living on such sweet nothing

30 Mar

If the rest of the year is as amazing as the month of March was I’m going to have the best year of my life! Firstly, March 1-3 I attended a Jivamukti Yoga retreat in Upstate New York. It was peaceful, enlightening and I saw the light and decided to become a vegetarian and any excess weight I was holding melted right off. As a result of changing my diet I felt better, lighter and my skin looks great. If  your ever in New York, check out JIVAMUKTI in Union Square and take every class given by Jules Febre and Narayani. They are the best and bringing out the best in you! I wish I could retreat every month.

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That was a fantastic start to the month. One of my closest friends Ava Lee Scott is an actor in the celebrated play Sleep No More

UnknownShe decided to join forces with GIRL BE HEARD(http://girlbeheard.org) which is an organization that helps girls that have been sex trafficked and have been abused by giving them a voice in their theater company. The beautiful girls from GIRL BE HEARD performed songs, monologues and mini plays in the Sleep No More Space. I was lucky enough to be a sponsor and make the girls Lila Juliet headbands.

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Me and my friends at Girl be heard. (I’m the one with the turban headband)

If you follow my blog you know I LOVE vintage everything.  I’ve been buying vintage in order to sell it on http://www.lilajuliet.etsy.com but I’ve been procrastinating.  But not this month! My sweet, beautiful friend Sam offered to model for me and my friend Sima did her make up. If you’re in the New York area and you need your makeup done contact her

https://www.facebook.com/Simsimanyc

This was the beautiful result

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Edie Vintage-Mod Mini Blue and Green Grecian Pattern Dress S/M


Edie Vintage-Mod Mini Blue and Green Grecian Pattern Dress S/M

Katy Vintage Red and black Polka Dot Last Friday Night 80's Skirt

Katy Vintage Red and black Polka Dot Last Friday Night 80′s Skirt

Scarlet Red Spring Maxi

Scarlet Red Spring Maxi

I’m hoping April is even better. I’ll be on the look out for the cheapest finds in the city and writing about them weekly. Thanks for checking out my blog.

Love,

Michelle

http://www.lilajuliet.etsy.com

*I feel so close to you right now*

30 Jun

It is so hot in New York. My right arm was in the sun so long that it bubbled up and peeled. Eww. Maybe I shared to much. The Flea Market Pop up store was a little slow today at Danny Screams at 220 Leonard Street in Brooklyn nonetheless I still had fun. Summer in NY is awesome though. I feel like listening to dance music with this weather for some reason

I met cool artists like Wilfred who owns Art is vast-/www.artisvast.etsy.com

He makes amazing stuff like this

He also hand paints coffee mugs and makes an array of interesting things.

And I met Andy who makes the best cast iron and silver jewelry Ive ever seen!

http://www.andyshouse.etsy.com

Ill share more tomorrow. Im off to make a quick dinner for Lila Juliet and her friend who’s over right now!

**EYES WIDE SHUT DRAMA RING by Lila Juliet**

26 Jun

I love a great cocktail ring.  The bigger the better.  Right now this is my favorite one.  I have them available in sizes 7,8 and 9. Just send me a message when your checking out on paypal for the size you need. I also have them with gold faces instead of the blue and red faces. Take your pick!

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$12.00

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